We all have ego that can't be challenged from outside. If you challenge the ego from outside it will gain more strength only. As any input to it turns it's strength, be it opposition or support.
At various moments of life our ego can be hurt at the least expected place, by the least expected person. At this moment if you can see the ego goes into furious reaction. A furious chain reaction actually.
If you don't share why your ego was hurt, you might heal it yourself but the incident will never be cleaned out. So conversation is the key, being a good listener and then a humble informer is the key.
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